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QUESTION: My mother’s yahrtzeit falls on Yom Kippur. It is also a Saturday this year. Do I light a candle, or do I wait until Shabbat is over?

L.C., Providence

Dear L.C., 

This question is timely since we are days away from the holiday. If the yahrtzeit begins Friday evening, then light the yahrtzeit candle before the Shabbat candles. If it falls on Saturday evening, you light the candle after havdalah, just past sunset. If you choose, you can get a three-day candle and light it well ahead of time so that it’s burning during Yom Kippur, Yizkor and Shabbat.

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