|Remembering Joshua Rubin|
|By Voice & Herald Staff|
|Friday, 06 January 2012 04:01|
PROVIDENCE – It was a day of grief and mourning for the too-short life of Joshua Rubin; at his funeral, eulogies were filled with stories of Rubin’s zest for life, for cooking and coffee, for music and travel, and, most of all, for his family and friends. Mourners responded to stories of humorous moments with brief, but appreciative, laughter, laughter that offered momentary respite from the heart-breaking pain and grief wracking those who knew Rubin.
Mourners, several hundred deep, filled the sanctuary of Temple Emanu-El, a place that had been a second home to Rubin and his siblings, Hilarie and Jonathan.
Rabbi Alvan Kaunfer noted that Rubin had chosen a quote from Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., for the inscription for his eighth grade graduation (from the Solomon Schecter School, now the Jewish Community Day School) page in the yearbook: “You can kill the dreamer, but you can’t kill the dream.”
Calling the quote eerily prophetic, Rabbi Kaunfer spoke movingly and poignantly of Rubin’s life and the impact he left on so many others. Turning strangers into friends, Rubin went to extraordinary lengths to attend the simchas of friends and family members.
When Rabbi Kaunfer asked Jonathan what his brother might have wanted as his legacy, he told the rabbi, ‘He’d want people to live full, not mediocre, lives. He wouldn’t want us to mourn him too much.”
After Rubin went missing – on the evening of Oct. 31 – a search ensued, one that ended in tragedy. Rubin’s body was found in rural area near Allentown, Pa., some 100 miles from his Brooklyn, N.Y. coffee shop, Whisk. News accounts revealed that his body was found Nov. 1, but was not identified as Rubin’s until mid-December.
Shortly after the identification, the Rubin family issued this statement to the media: “We are devastated about the loss of our beloved son and brother, Joshua Rubin. He was a kind, caring and gentle young man. He was the type of person that people gravitated to because of his funny personality and caring nature. He loved talking to people and consistently made new friends. He had a big wonderful smile that could light up your day.”
“Josh was deeply loved by his family and friends.
“The community in Providence, where he grew up, is grieving with us, as his is adopted family in the Brooklyn, N.Y. community where he lived and worked.
“We are also deeply moved by the countless condolences we have received from people all over the country and those who knew him and loved him.
“We can’t express enough gratitude for the overwhelming support and prayers we have received over the past eight weeks. Our hearts are broken.
“We ask that anyone who has information that can help police with Joshua’s murder investigation, please contact Detective Tallarico of the Lehigh County Homicide Task Force or Detective Gersbach from the South Whitehall, Pa. Police Department at 610-437-5252. Thank you.”